“Why is she driving the car? Can’t she give her husband the car to drive?” These were the words that came out of my six-year old some years back while we were going out to see a relative. It was not his first time of seeing women drive so I wondered where that came from. In fact though I was not driving then, his grandmothers drove. I tried to explain to him that driving a car is not gender-specific. Driving, like most human abilities, is what both sexes can develop once trained.
This only revealed to me how much patriarchy has eaten deep into the fabric of our society, conditioning our minds and actions. Even more hurtful is the fact that my son’s mind was not spared. I would never have thought my child would say that given our level of education and their upbringing.
Patriarchy is a social conceptualization in which men are seen as better than women and primarily hold power and predominate in politics, social privilege and property rights. In Africa, women are comparatively deprived socially, economically, and politically in relation to their male counterparts largely due to the patriarchal system of the society. Patriarchy remains deeply entrenched within our society to such an extent that most women consider it to be a normal way of life.
Historically, Sub-Saharan Africa has been primarily patriarchal (though not exclusively, there are some matriarchal societies such as the Akan of Ghana) for centuries. By elevating the needs and wants of men over those of women and also by giving males positions of power that elude women, patriarchy has set the tone for the present gender divide which has been influential in the rights and status of Sub-Saharan African women.
The disparity that exists between men and women in the African society is almost universally detrimental to the status and rights of women, resulting in their marginalisation and inability to fulfill their potentials in society relatively compared to their male counterparts. Although patriarchy has been around for many years, the system is faulty from a lot of perspectives – economics, education, land tenure, legal rights, political participation, and health rights as it presupposes that girls and women should be silenced, respectful, “nice”, well-behaved, ambitious but with a limit; and aware of self, but not too self-aware so as to not scare men off. These traits are mostly desirable except for being silenced but they should be developed by both sexes, not exclusive to a group, nor emphasized for one more than the other.
The result of this in the African society includes but not limited to:
- Girls’ and women’s exclusion from education: Families often favour boys when investing in education. If for any reason the resources available are not enough to cater for all the children’s education, the girl is almost by default asked to drop out to enable the boy continue his studies. This results in a higher illiteracy rate in females than males. Poverty is indeed, sexist.
- Being out of school makes the girls more susceptible to child labour, cheap labour, sexual exploitation and forced marriage.
- Decreased economic opportunities: A higher illiteracy rate of women to men limits their potential for attaining a well-paying job and decreasing their productivity. Structured and well paying jobs in the formal sector are mostly held by males while females are found more in the informal sector, doing menial jobs in the structured sector, and unpaid domestic duties majorly because they lack the requisite skills for the high-paying and structured jobs.
- Sexism: Boys are taught to pursue their dreams and primarily provide for their families while girls are groomed to look and behave in ways to be won in order to get married. The boys then grow up into men who lack the style of showing love properly, while the women grow forgetting their dreams and forfeiting to the man and family in totality.
In school, girls are sometimes not allowed to be the class captains, the role of assistant class captains is more suitable for them.
The prevalent objectification of women is very evident in the use of women in entertainment, product marketing and advertisement unlike men.
- Violence against women and girls: Our society is ridden with cases of rape and pedophile. While pedophile is usually condemned by all due to the demography of those involved, the way rape, sexual violence or other forms of sexual harassment are perceived and handled encourages men to force other people into sex, with little or no regard for consent. Men are said to be logical and rational beings, nonetheless, they are quick to justify rape and blame women for their infidelity. It often gets played down as uncontrollable sexual urges caused by the women’s mode of dressing, time of the day she goes out and where; and her mannerisms; even from her parents who should be the first line of support. Victim-blaming hampers the victims from reporting the cases to the appropriate authorities and seeking justice.
On the political scene, the roles and experiences of women and men greatly differ. Women tend to be averse to politics, participating as voters rather than candidates. There seems to be more support for men in politics than women due to the seeming leadership ability of men and domestic abilities of women reinforced by patriarchy although there has been a slight improvement over the years. Kenya now has at least 3 out of 47 county governors and 3 senators, a feat that was not possible in 2013. Though very small, it is a step in the right direction.
The legal system has not helped much to reduce patriarchy in the African society. International agreements, conventions, laws and institutions designed to improve women’s status have had to contend with deeply entrenched patriarchal beliefs. Majority of a society’s laws are made and controlled by men and often manipulated to protect male interests. Little wonder then, why African
From Zimbabwe to Nigeria , the situation is not very different in property rights and access to credit. Women have less access to resettlement schemes set up to provide land and housing. Especially in rural areas, women do most of the work, earn little money and control very little land.
The task of providing equal opportunity and access to livelihood and development for both genders must first start from individuals at the household level by understanding that women empowerment and development has multiplier effects on the family and society. The national and international laws and agreements on women’s rights and empowerment must be implemented across all spheres of endeavour.
Gender balance should be implemented in public and private organisations, public offices, media, sports and all aspects of development. Women’s achievements should be amplified while implementing legal frameworks that promote equality between women and men.
©Mujidah Ajibola. 2019